Why should anyone else be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
Some
people talk a lot about the kind of life they'd
like to have. Other people do something to
make it happen. Which kind are you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on Yourself
About
ten years ago, a friend of mine named Melissa
made a decision that changed her life. Her
school counselor offered her the chance to
become an exchange student in Europe. She
would be living in Germany, France, and Denmark,
learning all about each country's customs,
meeting new people, and picking up some of
each language.
No one in Melissa's family had ever traveled
far out of the state they lived in. Her parents
were skeptical, and told her that she should
forget it-they didn't have any extra money
to help her with such foolishness. In fact,
no one in Melissa's working-class neighborhood
had ever considered going to Europe. They
just hoped they'd have enough money to pay
the rent each month and buy groceries each
week.
Melissa knew it would be easier to stay home,
to keep working part-time and going to school
part-time. "After all," she thought,
"who do I think I am? I really don't
know what to expect. I don't know any foreign
languages. I'd probably just make a fool of
myself." If Melissa went to Europe for
a year, she wouldn't be able to work, and
she'd be spending the money she'd worked so
hard to save. It would be her first time ever
away from her family and friends, too. What
if she got homesick? And the thing that scared
her most was that when she came back from
her adventure, she'd be broke. She'd have
to live at home and rely on her parents until
she could get a job and save enough to move
out.
Still, she
couldn't quite forget the idea. Why shouldn't
it be her? After going endlessly back and
forth, she finally decided to take the risk.
She could always come back early if she hated
it. She called her school counselor, who was
delighted when Melissa said "Sign me
up!"
The counselor was about the only one who seemed
happy. Melissa's family offered no support,
emotionally or financially, and her friends
just laughed when she said she was going to
Europe. They finally realized she was serious
when she closed out her savings account and
asked the counselor to drive her to the airport.
"We'll see you in a couple of weeks,"
her dad laughed as she walked to the car.
Lessons
Learned
The trip began poorly. The airline bumped
Melissa's entire group, and told them they'd
have to wait until the next day to leave.
Although she had never flown before, Melissa
decided if she didn't leave that very day,
she'd chicken out completely. She went from
one ticket counter to another until she found
a connection, spending 10 hours in the airport
before leaving on her first-ever flight. It
took so long and she was so nervous that she
began to wonder if she should have listened
to her parents and her friends after all.
When she arrived in Germany the next afternoon,
she was exhausted. She guessed that the weird
sleep-deprived feeling she was experiencing
was what people called jet lag. Oddly, it
pleased her somehow to know first-hand what
it was. No one back home knew what jet lag
felt like! She handed the address of her new
apartment to the taxi driver, and paid him
in Euros when he dropped her off. Then she
slept for a long, long time.
The next day,
Melissa began exploring her new neighborhood.
She wasn't nervous at all. She found her way
to the nearest travel agency and bought a
train pass. Nearly everyone spoke English
and seemed helpful, and the trains made it
easy to get around.
The next week,
she ventured further-to Switzerland. She went
alone because the other students in her group
were apprehensive about traveling outside
the "base" country. Melissa wasn't
exactly radiating confidence herself, but
she wanted to see as much as she could during
her time in Europe, and the only way to do
that was to summon up her courage and go.
She loved learning what was beyond the sheltered
world she had left behind. She found that
all she really needed was common sense and
a map. From then on, when Friday came, Melissa
was packing her bag for another destination.
She saw the ruins at Rome, the Eiffel Tower,
and even the great pyramids in Egypt. Sometimes
she felt like she must be dreaming-that she'd
wake up from this new feeling of independence,
freedom, accomplishment and success. But she
was wide awake, and enjoying every minute.
Melissa's year of travel was a year of revelation
for her. As she studied different cultures
and met so many new people, she realized she
had always had an adventurous spirit and a
thirst for knowledge. And if Melissa had decided
to stay in the US, she would never have met
her future husband. She helped him
run his restaurant in Berlin-a new enterprise
they enthusiastically shared, and with great
success. They stayed in Germany for another
year before they returned to the States. As
it turned out, Melissa was far from being
broke!
So what's the
lesson here? People who don't take risks don't
go far. People who let others make their decisions
for them are rarely happy. And fear
is what keeps 99% of people from leading fulfilled,
successful lives. You don't have to
let that happen to you. Figure out what you
want, and then go for it!
What You
Need To Know
You should
be steering your own ship. While there will
always be some factors that are out of your
hands, it makes little sense to worry about
what you can't change. Instead, worry about
what you can control
- you and your actions
and your thinking.
Points To
Remember:
Be
receptive to all possibilities. Most new ideas
sounded crazy the first time they were introduced.
Fear
of failure can be very powerful. It can cause
you to stay in a rut, to procrastinate, and
to miss out on opportunities to change your
life. If you are dominated by fear, learn
to be brave.
Realize
that risk-taking is a necessary part of success.
Learning to negotiate risks leads to more
self-confidence and more triumphs along the
road to the life you would like to lead.
Always
be on the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most people believe
it's about finding inner peace, satisfaction
and emotional balance, as well as financial
stability. You can't achieve those unless
you start thinking out of the box. You have
to be willing to take some risks. You must
be willing to step out of your "comfort
zone." This applies to business as well
as to your personal life.
Some
Of The Pillars Of Success:
Plan
your work, and work your plan!
Make
every effort to be the best you can be at
what you do. Don't compare yourself to others.
Set your own goals.
When
you make a commitment, stick to it!
Acknowledge
that disappointments are part of life. Instead
of allowing setbacks to keep you from moving
ahead, overcome them and forge ahead. This
will make you stronger.
Remember
that every experience, whether good or bad,
can be a learning experience. It's all in
what you take from it.
Live
each day as if it were your last; have no
regrets.
Some Final
Words
..
So
have you decided yet if you're a talker
or a doer? Do you wait
for things to happen to you at the whim of
others, or do you make them
happen? Are you just thinking about how great
your future could be if only...? There
is no better time than right now to stop just
thinking about making a change that
will secure your future success and time.
Right now is the time to do something about
it. Starting a home based business is
one of the easiest first steps you can take
to begin working on your financial independence.
You may have heard people derisively say,
"Oh, she's only looking out for number
one." But be honest. If you don't look
out for yourself first, who will? Are you
ready to take control of your own destiny-to
look out for number one? I can help you find
the path to success, but you need to make
the decision to take the first step down that
path. Your first step will take you just a
few minutes. Take the time to fill out the
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to success today. Like my friend Melissa,
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that you never imagined-and a sense of independence,
confidence and accomplishment that is beyond
your fondest dreams.